I believe God created us to be with a person in particular. If we’re fully blessed, we find them on the first go-round. If not, there’s nothing wrong. It just means it will be a bit later in life. Regardless, it’s a blessing all the same.
Old black folks say, like minded spirits line up. When they say that they are usually speaking about ministery or kindred spirits in friends. But I would imagine a mate would be the same.
I would like to think that we draw each other nearer and the person that we choose to be with is drawn to us, like a cable or string that we can’t see. They follow it back to us or us to them just like you would follow a familar path home.